What Defiles A Man?
Men are generally attracted to women’s body figure. This might differ from men to men based on our culture, race and upbringing…
By AYO JOEL
“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.””
The word of our Lord Jesus Christ in Matthew 5:27-28, used to scare and bother me when I was younger.
I used to be troubled and even tormented by this scripture.
I thought to myself, “with all these beautiful ladies around; worse still, in this present generation, how will a man not but notice the attack (boobs) and defence (buttocks) of women around?” Women with terrific designs; wearing different fabrics of clothings that reveal their full figures and shapes in different sizes?
We might even conclude that if women were to dress the way they do now in King Solomon’s times, he would have ended up with about two to three thousand women instead of just one thousand.
I thought about Job’s words in Job 31:1 ““I have made a covenant with my eyes; Why then should I look upon a young woman?” and said to myself, “that’s easy for Job because he came in a generation when women dressed modestly.”
I thought about the scripture in Proverbs 6:25 that says, “Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, Nor let her allure you with her eyelids” and I thought it’s not just the facial beauty that we men of today are dealing with.
Men are generally attracted to women’s body figure. This might differ from men to men based on our culture, race and upbringing; but generally, most men are attracted to facial beauty, well-shaped busts and buttocks; though size preferences may differ.
So looking at the media, both audio-visuals and prints, as well as social media platforms that promote and celebrate nudity and promiscuity at all levels; how can you and I fulfill the words of Jesus in our present age and times not to look at a woman without lusting in our hearts?
I can hear majority of men echoing, “Impossible.” I totally agree with our sentiments on this issue, that with us as men in our fallen state, (our natural state), it’s absolutely impossible.
BUT, I remember the scriptures that say “With God, nothing is impossible”; “It is God that works in us both to will and to do of His good pleasure”; “I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me”; “It is no longer I that lives but Christ that lives in me”; “Christ in me, the hope of glory” and “if any man is in Christ, he is a new creature, old things are passed away, all things have become new.”
With these set of scriptures I came to realise that Jesus is not expecting me as a natural man to look at a woman without lusting in my heart, He knows I can’t. All He’s asking is for me to allow him to come and live inside me to help and teach me how to handle this sexual challenge with ease.
In addition, Jesus’ word in Mark 7:18-23 reveals how we can overcome sexual temptation with ease. Jesus gave an insight in this scripture; and if you and I, as men can understand it, we’ll be completely free from this cancerous disease of promiscuity that has tormented us from generation to generation; and it’s still being used against us by the enemy of our soul, the devil on daily basis.
I will share this overcoming insight in the next edition. See you then.